Are you looking for small ways to be more romantic in your relationships? Do you want to expand your intimacy? The way I see it there are two parts to this question. One part is answering the question. The second part is using those small ways to make things more romantic in your relationship.
So let’s look at the first question. Yes, there are some small ways to be more romantic. I’m talking about expanding your intimate horizons. Are you ready to take that next step?
Here’s one easy place to start with small ways to be more romantic. Attend some couples counseling. This is a good idea for a couple that has been married for a few years and who has a real problem with communication. It’s a good idea because couples counseling is the best way to find out what kind of problems you both have that is causing friction between the two of you. In most cases problems like these can be overcome.
When I attended marriage counseling I heard all kinds of great advice. From how to improve sex for women and for men. From what turned me on in a relationship to how you can avoid certain mistakes that can destroy a relationship. It was a life changing experience for me. And, it helped me avoid some huge mistakes that I made when I was in my early 20’s.
Now, here’s the real secret. Women and men don’t communicate about these important issues. Most men just assume that the women in their lives are smart and capable. They don’t communicate what’s going on in their heads. So, if you want to create a romantic atmosphere you need to communicate with your partner. Every issue you face can be solved by talking it over.
I also learned how to listen effectively. The way I did this is to literally talk to my spouse. Talk about what’s troubling you and what you’re feeling. I don’t do this with my husband though because I don’t feel comfortable asking him about his feelings.
Talking about intimate matters will help you to build intimacy and, therefore, your relationship. Talking and listening are two very powerful tools you can use to build a stronger relationship. Remember, intimacy is a key ingredient to having a satisfying sex life. Therefore, making time to communicate and discuss your intimate concerns will go a long way to keeping your relationship exciting.
Now, I’m not saying that you should lie to your spouse. If you feel that it’s necessary to do so then by all means do it. That’s what being romantic is all about. But, using “I” to cover up your “you” in any conversation is not romantic. Remember, romance begins with you.
Another relationship issue that causes friction between couples is the subject of spending money. As women, we tend to be more concerned about spending and budgeting than our partners. It’s no wonder that so many marriages fail.
If this is the case in your relationship, then you’ve got to sit down and divide up the earnings. Work with your partner to come to an agreement on who makes what. Don’t argue about who gets to spend more. Just do what you both agreed upon.
I’ve always found that romantic conversations were the most fulfilling and, oftentimes, the most revealing. They revealed things about your partner that you probably wouldn’t learn otherwise. So, next time you have a free afternoon, don’t hesitate to phone up your partner and tell them how you’re feeling. Tell them how you feel about the way they spend their money. Use language that’s a bit more intimate than the average conversation.
Small ways to say “I love you” are everywhere! So, don’t let your busy life keep you from expressing your feelings any more. Remember that romance goes a long way in creating a happy marriage. If you need some help in creating a romantic, loving relationship, then contact a relationship counselor today.
